When is a Good Time to Seek Couple Counselling & Coaching?

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As soon as you feel you are drifting, and your relationship is not what you would like it to be. Often couples seek professional help as the last resort. They have already spent months and sometimes years battling on their own. Whereas a few sessions with a professional can help couples come back on track and deepen their bond.
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"Committed love relationships are powerful and prized human experiences and have the potential for the deepest personal and social healing" write Drs. H. Harville & H. LaKelly, developers of Imago Therapy. 

Love relationships take us on a roller-coaster of connection and disconnection. If we manage to repair and accept our differences, our disagreement, all is good. But if we don't manage to repair, we stay stuck in the 'power struggle' where we can no longer hear each other, where we feel alone, abandoned, rejected, not important to our partner and find 'exits'. Children, work, sports, studies, affairs, depression are possible exits.

We have longings and desires, but we no longer express those. Instead, we attack, blame or hide.

What can Couple Counselling or Coaching help with?

‍Communication problems: Poor communication or a breakdown in communication is a common issue in relationships. Couples may struggle to express their needs, listen to each other, or resolve conflicts effectively. During the sessions the various techniques I use help create a healthier dialogue between partners.

Conflict resolution: One of the fundamental elements of a healthy relationship is to be able to repair and reconnect. Every relationship experiences conflicts, but if they become frequent, intense, or unresolved, they can negatively impact the relationship. Couple Counseling & Coaching provide a neutral and supportive environment where couples can learn effective strategies for resolving conflicts and managing disagreements constructively.

Trust issues and infidelity: Trust is a fundamental element of a healthy relationship, and when it's broken due to infidelity or other reasons, it can be challenging to rebuild. Couple Counseling & Coaching helps couples to address the underlying issues, rebuild trust, and work towards forgiveness and healing.

Healing past hurts: Many couples bring unresolved issues and emotional baggage from their past into their relationship. Counseling & Coaching allow partners to explore and heal these wounds, which may include past traumas, betrayals, or unresolved conflicts. By addressing and processing these issues, couples can create a healthier foundation for their relationship.

‍Intimacy and sexual problems: Changes in sexual desire, lack of intimacy, or sexual dissatisfaction can strain a relationship. Couple Counselling & Coaching can provide a safe space to discuss these sensitive topics, explore underlying causes, and find ways to enhance intimacy and sexual satisfaction.

Life transitions and stressors: Major life changes such as getting married, having children, career changes, or dealing with illness can place stress on a relationship. Counselling & Coaching can help couples navigate these transitions, manage stress, and adjust to new roles and responsibilities.

Lack of emotional connection: Over time, couples may feel disconnected or emotionally distant from each other. Counselling & Coaching can assist in rebuilding emotional bonds, fostering empathy, and strengthening the emotional connection between partners.

Pre-marital Counseling & Coaching: Some couples seek counseling before getting married to address potential issues, establish healthy communication patterns, and develop a strong foundation for their future together.

Relationship dissatisfaction: When one or both partners feel unhappy or unsatisfied in the relationship, they may turn to Counselling & Coaching to explore the reasons behind their dissatisfaction and work towards improving their overall relationship satisfaction.

Enhancing problem-solving skills: During sessions partners discuss effective problem-solving and decision-making skills. The therapist can teach techniques such as active listening, negotiation, and collaboration, which empower couples to approach challenges with a problem-solving mindset.

Overall, Counselling & Coaching provide a supportive and objective space where couples can gain insights, learn new skills, and work together to overcome challenges, improve communication, and build a stronger, healthier relationship.